The Unavoidable Pitfalls of Dating Online

Oyelola Oyetunji
4 min readFeb 11, 2022

Dating online seems to be the most popular way we search for love today.

If you’re not doing it, you’re likely to know at least one person who is.

It’s a journey filled with ups and downs — sometimes, twists and turns. There’s nothing like an online dating plot twist to keep life interesting.

Though there are benefits to dating online (especially for those of us who’d rather not approach a stranger and confess our attraction), you’ll find that you experience the pitfalls a lot sooner.

And if you have — rest assured, you’re not the only one.

As you read these pitfalls, you may discover just how much you’re in good company.

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When you come across the profile of someone you know.

Hide me now.

Chances are, they’ve probably seen your profile, too.

Now, I’m not ashamed that I’m on the online dating scene, but I’d prefer to choose who in my world knows about it.

If it slips out by word of mouth, I can live with that. But when I discover my profile is there for people who know me to see for themselves and judge the “online” me against the “in-person” me, I flush red hot with embarrassment (internally, because physically…

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Oyelola Oyetunji

Freelance writer, storyteller, poet — love, online dating, musings on life, race, work & chronic illness. Become a member: https://oyelola.medium.com/membership